Relationship Tips |
#1 We all want our children to be respectful to us and others. We want Think about it, we tell our children not to interrupt us when we are talking to someone but if they are talking to someone, we interrupt them. We have taught them by example and our actions have told them we do not respect them. We tell our children not to enter our bedroom without knocking and getting We all want our children to be patient and respectful, why do we expect We live in a busy (Buried Under Satan’s Yoke) world and we teach our children by example. If we want our children to change we must change first. Slow down and live a life that is a good example and pleasing to God. Morals are caught not taught .
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#2 A story about my family. My daughter (Paige) at age 11 and my son (Jess) at age 9, were with me in my pick-up truck, all sitting in the front seat. Jess was sitting in the middle and he kept picking on Paige, and Paige would ask him to stop. Jess continued to poke, tickle and pick on Paige. Paige continued asking him to “please stop,” getting louder and using more body language each time. I wanted the children to work this out on their own so I stayed out of it. All at once, Paige took her left elbow and placed it in Jess’s stomach. I slammed on brakes, squalling all four tires and scolded Paige for hitting Jess. I told her she better never ever hit him again. She said: “I could not make him stop.” I said: “You better learn a new way because you are never allowed to use physical force again!” I was so mad she had hit her little brother. As I continued to drive home, it got worse. God spoke to me in my heart and mind and said: “Why do you expect an 11yr old to do what you can not?” I thought: “What?” God reminded me that when the children would not stop misbehaving, I would use physical force (spanking) but I was expecting the children not to use physical force. I expected them to do what I could not. God reminded me of my own words: “ You better learn a new way because you are never allowed to us physical force again!” I was also reminded that the trainers at Sea World don’t spank Shamu, the killer whale. They have learned a better way to influence and train without force. If we want our children to change, we must learn a better way to train. I’m not saying I never spanked them again, but I will say it was much different. Paige is now 24 and Jess 22 and I am very proud of them both. They taught me a lot. We live in the information age. There are all kinds of family training books, videos and the world wide web. I would recommend visiting www.family.org This is a website created by Dr. James Dobson. He has authored many books on children and some videos on the family. Other books I recommend: Five Love Languages for Children and Five love Languages for Teens by Dr. Gary Chapman. Visit his website at: www.fivelovelanguages.com |
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